Barbara Solomon, Mother

29 04 2010

Solomon Obit "Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep." Romans 12:15 (NASB)

There is a time and a place for everything. Death is one of those things that has a place in life. It is the one thing that is unavoidable.

This article is not meant to tear down or make one feel sad, but death is sad for those left behind. For those who have moved on, who is to say what they are experiencing. After all, God alone knows the mind of man completely and He is the ultimate judge of where we will reside in the after life.

This week my wife’s family, the Solomons lost a loved one; the mother of my wife, Barabara. I too lost a loved one. Setting spiritual beliefs aside for a moment, for I am a Baptist and she was LDS, Barbara Solomon was my mother-in-law and I loved her for that.

She was a strong willed woman, and although at times she and I found ourselves at odds with each other over differences in our religious beliefs, I never never doubted that she cared for me. She was an amiable debater having studied and immersed herself in her church and its belief system. She was a woman of conviction even when I remained unconvinced based her stance on whatever religious topic we might be debating.

Her sons and daughters, and even my wife most times, did not get to see the side of their mother that I saw. And, to be honest I am not sure that they would understand this side of her, nor could I explain it to them. I can say to them that their mother was passionate about what she thought and what she believed.

It is a funny thing to me in experiencing the loss of Barbara. It did not dawn on me just how much I was going to miss her until I hugged her husband by her grave and told him how much I loved him. He told me that no matter what I am a part of his family. I believe in my heart of hearts that Barbara felt the same.

In this it is hard for me to express how much I will miss the times that Barbara and I had together. I may never get to hear again these words from her lips, "Come here son. Let’s sit down and talk. I have question for you."

In this statement is found my greatest regret regarding Barbara Solomon. That is that I never called her mother. For that matter, I never called her anything but Mrs. Solomon. So many times she asked me to call her mother, or at least Barbara. Every time I simply told her that out of respect for her I could only call her Mrs. Solomon.

That was wrong of me, because in her death I realized that I robbed her of something that she loved; the role of a mother. It is my one regret in remembering her.

I will miss our conversations and debates Mom. I will try to have some with Dad while he is still with us. Remember, I love you even in death and that I miss you.





Lessons on Hindsight

14 01 2010

by Michael Frye

I just finished reading through 1st and 2nd Kings this past Sunday. I was amazed by something that I saw in a new way this time as I turned page after page. It revolved around the phrase, “He did what was evil in the sight of the Lord…”.

The phrase led me to a question that I asked myself as I was in study. It was this, “Just how long suffering is God?” He must be very patient based on the occurrences and reoccurrences of evil we find referenced in 1st and 2nd Kings over and over.

1st Kings begins with King David in his old age fulfilling a promise to Bathsheba concerning his son Solomon’s reign and the anointing of King Solomon as ruler over Israel and Judah. Throughout 1st and 2nd Kings we read how king after king did “evil in the sight of the Lord” and how it led to the disintegration and division of these two nations. Israel was essentially disowned by God, because they refused to turn from their evil ways back to Him. 2nd Kings ends with the captivity of Judah by the Babylonians as God had pre-determined they would. Again, because of their wickedness.

Did you know God has graciously given us the benefit of hindsight? Not just any hindsight, but His perfect hindsight. Being able to look back at what has gone dreadfully wrong and perfectly right with people and nations. Throughout the books of the Bible we are offered an opportunity to know in what ways God may react in certain situations.

Take for instance God’s judgment against these two nations consisting of His chosen people found in the books I have described above. God suffered the evil that the kings and people did during this period in Biblical history. Many generations came and passed away. Some followed in the righteous footsteps of those who lived just previous to them. Others fell away from the one true God, but in all cases these generations were led by kings.

In most cases the writer of 1st and 2nd Kings is clear that the kings were instrumental in leading the people away from worshiping God, or led the people in the continuation of their sinful ways. This is not to say that the individual during that time did not have the responsibility to know better, because they did. And still, as it is evident in our time, it is evident in their time that people looking for someone to lead them may not be able to see beyond their own selfish humanized agendas toward what God may have in mind.

Immersion in sin has a funny way of preventing one’s ability to correctly see truth from fiction. Whether that ability exist in a current situation or in hindsight. For our benefit this is made evident and very clear in 1st and 2nd Kings. The king almost always refused to hear or see what God was doing. There were a few exceptions, but they were very few and very far between.

The people always followed with the exception of few who were set aside by God for the specific purpose of warning them against what they were choosing to do. They worshipped gods that did not exist and accomplished great things in producing the altars, figures, and methods by which they served the false deities. The true and living God was always there warning them to turn away from what would be a devastating end.

The kings and the people did not listen until it was too late. You see just one generation prior to the taking of Judah in to captivity, one godly man rose. He was a king and his name was Josiah. The writer of 2nd Kings describes him this way.

“he did what was right in the eyes of the Lord and walked in all the way of David his father, and he did not turn aside to the right or to the left.” 2 Kings 22:2 (ESV)

Josiah was presented with the Book of the Law (Deuteronomy) by a priest who had discovered it while the “house of the Lord” was under repair. The priest gave it to one of Josiah’s secretaries to be brought and read to him. After hearing it, Josiah knew that he and for many years his nation had transgressed the law that was read to him. The result was a penitent man who sought to over turn the determination of God to destroy the nation of His chosen people.

Simply put, it was too late. God’s long patience with a people that refused to turn back to Him was gone. I think it is interesting though that Josiah did not give up. He reinstituted the ways of God among the people based on the book that had been read to him even after God told him that there would be no reprieve from destruction. He wiped the country clean of false idols and their worship. He was a righteous man who led people to the righteous ways of God.

I believe there is a hard lesson to be learned in Josiah’s reaction related to that question I asked myself throughout this study and to the benefit of God’s perfect hindsight that I spoke about earlier. It is this; we are given but a moment to live here on earth. How we, the individual, react to what we are shown about God and His ways says a lot about how we will react as a people.

We have had ungodly leaders, the kings of our time if you will, who have led their people in to unholy and sinful circumstances. In recent history we have the seen the literal destruction of said people and their kings, which I can confidently say was God’s judgment on them for the evil that they did in His sight. Let us not be that next nation of people who God has determined to be completely beyond His reprieve and find ourselves destroyed and taken away captive.

Let us be individuals like Josiah. Persons seek God through His holy word and who call upon those around us to the redemptive power of Christ Jesus. Let us return to the ways of the Lord, so that we might be found as those who do “what is right in the eyes of the LORD.”





What is the Gospel?

5 01 2010

by Harley Pebley

Several months ago, to prepare the congregation for communion, the leader asked the common evangelical question, “If you stood before God right now and He asked why you should get into heaven, what would you say?” He continued, briefly explaining sin, our need for salvation, Jesus redemptive sacrifice and how we can repent to receive forgiveness. This was the gospel as typically presented in most evangelical churches. As I sat there in agreement with him, I couldn’t help but wonder “Is this all there is to the gospel?” This question has rumbled around my soul and spirit for a number of months. I now want to record a resounding, “No, this is not all there is to the gospel.”

First, I want to emphasize that in no way do I add to Jesus finished work on the cross. It is only by Him we are saved. He paid the cost for our redemption. He drew us to Him to accept His payment and forgiveness. He is the author and finisher of our faith.

The gospel as commonly presented, and as given on that day months ago, is the gospel of salvation. Paul refers to this in his letter to the Ephesians and Peter makes this the focus of his message on the day of Pentecost. Jesus is Lord. Repent. Be baptized. It is core to our relationship with God. Without it, we have no access to His presence, leaving everything else without meaning. However, if we stop here, we simply have “fire insurance” and God means the gospel to be so much more.

The gospel is also a gospel of peace. It is through forgiveness that we have peace with God. We are no longer enemies with Him but He considers us His children. Further, we can cast our cares and burdens on Him, let Him be our sufficiency and rest in His peace.

In addition to salvation and peace, the gospel is one of grace. When we accept Jesus, He gives us the gift of the Holy Spirit. It is by the Spirit’s work and empowerment that we can live the righteous and just lives He desires of us. His life in us enables us to resist temptation and do the things He calls us to do.

Furthermore, the gospel is of God. He reaches out to us. It is nothing we do; it is not dependent on us. Even though we are weak, He is strong. Though we are faithless, He is faithful. He is the guarantor of the covenant. We are not.

Finally, the gospel is about the kingdom. This seems to be one of the least taught parts of the gospel. I think to understand this better, we need to realize Jesus came first to redeem humanity but He also came to rescue all creation. Jesus Himself teaches, as recorded in John’s gospel, that God so loved the cosmos, or the universe, that He gave us His only Son. Paul continues this theme in Romans when he says all creation yearns for the full revelation of God’s sons. Scripture clearly teaches that Jesus will return physically to establish His kingdom on earth. There will be new heavens and a new earth. We will have redeemed bodies. He will establish justice. He will arrange everything according to God’s plan. The planet will be free of corruption. The King of all kings will rule and reign in righteousness. His kingdom will rule the globe. In our world, torn by robbery, immorality, evil, famine and poverty, this ultimate rule by the one who is the very definition of love and justice and righteousness is truly good news.





Merry Christmas

24 12 2009

“For unto us a child is born, unto us a son is given: and the government shall be upon his shoulder: and his name shall be called Wonderful, Counsellor, The mighty God, The everlasting Father, The Prince of Peace.” ~ Isaiah 9:6 (KJV)

 

To my friends, family, and readers of ShewMen, I wish you all the very best this wonderful time of year. A very Merry Christmas to you and yours!

From the Frye Family





Three Lights That Night

17 12 2009

Three Lights That Night

There were Three Lights that night when our Christ was born. All holy and perfect acting as Three in One.

Pure were they and that quiet night so bright. Our Christ would come bringing salvation, He to reign in might.

Delivered to us was He in means so humble. Yet the heavens filled with those proclaiming His Kingly arrival.

Their cry of the prophet who foretold of His coming. There would be "Glory to God" and peace forthcoming.

The shepherds they ran to see the child so proclaimed. And find Him they did in a manger He lay.

Proclaimed to the world by these shepherds so startled. Jesus the Son made His perfect arrival.

The kings of countries to see Him they traveled. At the Christ child they were sent Him by God in it they marvel.

And came they did baring gifts of old. Gold, frankincense, and myrrh in them found a sacred lifetime foretold.

That child would die on cross in years. Salvation and righteousness brought to those who would fear.

Born again to Him they would call themselves a new. It was Christ who made it possible from the beginning He knew.

Death would be bitter and cold for His Father withdrew. But life again in three days His world now renewed.

Jesus, God incarnate, was born to us on that bright night. One Light in Three His perfect purpose in man’s plight.

Copyright 2009 Michael E. Frye
The image and poem can be seen together here: Three Lights That Night.